When a woman loses her husband is her soulmate, her love, her friend, the magnitude of the loss did not hit immediately as it is almost always in denial.
When I lost my husband 10 years ago and left me 2 months pregnant and with two small children, I thought my life had come to an end. I do not know where to turn and waited for my friends to understand what was going on and stop doing what they were doing to gather around me 24-7.
Well, that did not happen and I came to the sad realization that it was me picking up the pieces of my life and step into the big shoes that my husband had left behind. Gradually, I embraced my new role and became stronger. The solitude was amazing but I kept holding on, knowing that God had not forgotten me.
Every night seemed darker than before and only the birth of my daughter who finally brought a smile to the lips and joy to my heart afflicted. Four years later, when I looked back through the tough times I endured, I realized that I had done only by the grace of God.
Who would have thought that I held so dear friends turn away from me, whispers behind my back that I wanted nothing to do with a widow about their husbands? I was no longer welcome at the meetings that were attended by couples. I increasingly found refuge with my children and my weight dropped back to rear the best way possible.
I suggested anything or anyone stop me. I realized that it was up to me to be all that was created to be. I adapted the following and now live a full and wonderful life:
1. I began to pray as he had never done before and allowed God to replace my husband.
2. I completely changed my attitude and began to find something to thank God every day.
3. He accepted that if I was going to be happy, that was me and I began to find joy in small things.
4. I refused to feel sorry for myself and began to look for people who could help me.
5. I realized that being a widow is not a life sentence and people will treat you the way you want to be treated.
Now I am a successful woman who motivates others and finding joy in life. Do not take anything for granted and I thank God that in His infinite mercy, has made life so beautiful for me and my three wonderful children.
When I lost my husband 10 years ago and left me 2 months pregnant and with two small children, I thought my life had come to an end. I do not know where to turn and waited for my friends to understand what was going on and stop doing what they were doing to gather around me 24-7.
Well, that did not happen and I came to the sad realization that it was me picking up the pieces of my life and step into the big shoes that my husband had left behind. Gradually, I embraced my new role and became stronger. The solitude was amazing but I kept holding on, knowing that God had not forgotten me.
Every night seemed darker than before and only the birth of my daughter who finally brought a smile to the lips and joy to my heart afflicted. Four years later, when I looked back through the tough times I endured, I realized that I had done only by the grace of God.
Who would have thought that I held so dear friends turn away from me, whispers behind my back that I wanted nothing to do with a widow about their husbands? I was no longer welcome at the meetings that were attended by couples. I increasingly found refuge with my children and my weight dropped back to rear the best way possible.
1. I began to pray as he had never done before and allowed God to replace my husband.
2. I completely changed my attitude and began to find something to thank God every day.
3. He accepted that if I was going to be happy, that was me and I began to find joy in small things.
4. I refused to feel sorry for myself and began to look for people who could help me.
5. I realized that being a widow is not a life sentence and people will treat you the way you want to be treated.
Now I am a successful woman who motivates others and finding joy in life. Do not take anything for granted and I thank God that in His infinite mercy, has made life so beautiful for me and my three wonderful children.
